Wisdom Wednesday -1/16- Abandoning Self Doubt and Self Sabotaging
Self doubt is crippling. Not believing in yourself, is murderous. It’s so important to remember ... if you don’t believe in you, nobody will. You have to get all of the wack and negative energy out of your head. Replace it with good energy. No more “I think I can,” how about , “I KNOW I CAN.” Don’t let your fear replace your faith. There are so many goals and good things God has for you, yet your inner critic is telling you, you’re not worthy of them. Today, I want you to tell your inner critic to go away. Evacuate that intruder out of your mind immediately. You can’t grow where you aren’t being watered. So make it a priority to water yourself. There are many ways we can overcome negativity. Yet, sometimes we would rather wallow in self pity and fear. Instead of trusting the process, we run from it. We don’t want to be warriors and fight. We just want the grand prize. Yes. We all are going through different motions and phases of our life. And I realize, some of our battles are harder than others. But you can’t let life just beat you up. Life will be hard. When you come to that conclusion, that’s when it’s time for you to be harder. Always be willing to make a way. Everyone loves to say that plan A is the only way, but you need to have an alphabet full of plans. Why ? Because things don’t always go as expected. But you have to make something shake. Self doubt is dangerous. And its accomplice self sabotage is just as disastrous. I can recall some of the greatest moments in my life. Everything was going better than great, and all of a sudden boom. Anxiety hits my cortex and I’m thinking too hard about my present situation. More importantly, I began to question my happiness and lack of drama that I’m experiencing. I wondered, why so much peace? Of course me, wanting to be in control.. creates issues and stress that don’t exist. That’s soooo repulsive of me. But I’m guilty of it , and so are you. Humans are crazy creatures who have to be in control. But when will we stop and truly let go and let God? Everyone loves to say that, but do we truly do that ? Here’s today’s wisdom: stop doubting yourself. Stop self sabotaging your life when you can’t find anything wrong with your current plight. You are worthy of the peace and productivity you have in your life. Life is a roller coaster enough without you adding unnecessary, self sabotaging loops. You’re worthy of all good things coming your way. Xoxoxo- SeauxRaven
The Wisdom of Creating Boundaries- April 10, 2019
Some of the most successful people are not necessarily the smartest in the world. They might not have the highest education or the most in depth backgrounds. But it has been said that many successful people are those who invest into their mental health, are constantly mindful, and are disciplined. But I think a nugget of wisdom they would give you and I, is the wisdom of creating boundaries. You think Steve Jobs would have caught his big break if he was constantly letting people use and abuse his time. What about the rappers who were once local, that are finally at the top of the billboards. I am sure Wayne, Drake, or Nipsey did not get where they are by missing studio time getting caught up in all the distractions their friends, family, and media hurled their way. If you do not learn how to create boundaries, you will never have the capacity to reach your dreams and tackle what is on your plate.
Now, by no means am I saying to get rid of your empathy. Empathy makes the world thrive. It takes zero dollars to have compassion for others. Yet, some of us do not know how to separate being there for others and caring their blood on our shoulders. I really struggle with this at times, especially considering my projected career field. However, I am learning when my mental cannot take anymore. Some people will use you up because they know you have a kind soul. They will always dump their problems on you, but when you need a shoulder to lean on... where are they… no where to found! Create boundaries. Learn when to say, “Hey I’ve kind of got a lot going on right now and I just need a moment to decompress. Can I call you back later?” Or, take a step back and realize that a certain environment is negative and is not allowing you to grow. It is nothing wrong with taking a healthy break. Notice I said, “healthy.” Do not ghost people or situations; communicate with them and let them know you just need a break. Because sometimes you can get so invested into other people’s lives that you lose yourself. Your work becomes mediocre. Your anxiety is sky rocketed. You have no sense of peace, because you are playing therapist to everyone and you do not even have the credentials. You are in school for business yet you think you can be someone’s doctor.
Again, it is so important to be there for your friends and family. It is important to show up for that job and do your work to the best of your ability. We need each other in humanity, to thrive. But do not forget about you. Some homeless people will tell you that they got where they are because they showed everyone love until they had nothing. Make sure everything you are giving out is being reciprocated. For some of us, that will not always be the case because we are just givers. But often, the giver runs dry. Stop running dry my friend. Create healthy boundaries for those in your lives. ...stop answering the phone after 9:00 pm. Use that time to meditate and recuperate. Instead of getting upset and anxious with your friend about their situation, just be there. They might not even need your say so. That job that is using and abusing you, let it go. Just like you got that job, you can get another. Learning your capacity and triggers in fundamental for your well- being. Some people just really take a toll on us. Some jobs or settings really depress us. Some relationships really are toxic for us. So, we MUST learn how to create boundaries. Learning what you can and cannot tolerate is KEY. Because if you do not, you will end up empty.
Wisdom Wednesday
Do what you love….
This Wednesday Wisdom is very simple. The wisdom of doing what you love, so you don’t end of living a life you hate. The sky is truly the limit. There is honestly nothing unattainable and if you think something is silly, you haven’t tried hard enough to reach it. It, is whatever your wildest desire is. What keeps you up at night, and what really makes you as a person thrive. Some of us are so consumed with the practicalities of life and are so caught up in the wisdom of the world. The wisdom that has worked for others, but is just too conventional for us to follow. There are so many creative people out there who will never be discovered because they don’t have the wisdom to take that leap of faith. “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”- George Addair. Our fears are all subjective, just like our dreams. My leap of faith may not be that scary for you, but it’s MY leap of faith. The next person’s goals might be unattainable for most, but if you really want to be successful as much as you want to breath…you’ll do what needs to be done. Today makes a year since I’ve become a blogger and created this space. I realized I loved writing as a child in English classes when I had to be told to shorten my writing prompts. I had a big imagination and needed a space for my creativity. So my leap of faith, was creating a blog. It was extremely out of my comfort zone because as down to earth and appealingly open as I appear to be… I am private. I have layers like everyone else and only share what I choose. But using my craziest moments to motivate and encourage others helped me grow as a person. And I realized people just want to be related to. It helped me find purpose and solidified my projected career route. So no sappiness involved, everyone deserves to experience their dreams and watch them eventually unfold in front of their eyes. But don’t cheat your passions. Go through the process of achieving what you love. Success doesn’t occur over night. You have to work hard and you can’t cheat the struggle that accompanies becoming great. But as my mom eloquently says, “Do what you love and make the time count, because time will go by regardless.” Don’t let life pass you by without going out on those risky limbs. Live life with purpose, but don’t forget to create. Be risky. Sometimes you can’t properly calculate them, but it’s better you take them than to live a life of regret. Invest in school of course. Invest in your future please. Be practical to an extent. But remember, if not you, then who. Your big break could be closer than you think.